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Wednesday, 18 June 2008 05:00 |
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Sure, we all dream about meeting the right person. . . the one
that we are meant to be with forever. Dreaming about it is all
fun and easy, but the real question is, where do you find this
soul mate of yours? Fate? Well yes, if you believe in fate, then
yes, it will have something to do with it, but not without
effort on your part. Fate needs you to give it direction so that
as a team, you can find the person you have always wanted as a
part of your life.
The first thing you have to do before finding your soul mate, is
finding yourself. What qualities are important to you? What are
your morals and beliefs? How do you show your affection and how
do you expect it to be presented to you? These are questions
necessary for you to ask yourself before going out there. Giving
yourself an interview will make things clearer of what type of
person you are really looking for, instead of just going on a
blind search.
It is very common for a person to date people just for “dating”.
While dating is a fun and useful experience, it is not advisable
to just go out with anyone just to have a date, or to enter a
relationship because you do not want to be alone. When you go
out on a date, it is important that you use that date as an
opportunity to observe and see if the person is someone you
would like to see again and if they carry the qualities you are
looking for. If, for example, if you are searching for a person
who is in touch with his or her romantic side, but go on a date
with someone who likes acting rough at baseball games and loves
hunting, then you could pretty much see where the relationship
would go. You should be able to sense these qualities after a
few dates.
Once you have realized that these dates will not lead to a
relationship you have dreamed of, then obviously the person is
not your dream mate either, and it would be best if you stop
seeing each other to prevent any misleading expectations.
Continuing to date someone just because you entered a comfort
zone or do not want to hurt their feelings will only hold you
back from meeting who you are really meant to be with, not to
mention waste precious time for both you and your date’s. Gently
break it to him or her that you find them to be a very
interesting and nice person, but you feel like going solo for a
while and then move on.
Tracking down your soul mate will require patience; so do not
feel frustrated or hopeless if you do not find him or her in a
certain amount of time. Good things take time to be brought
together and you will come together when the time is right. The
time becomes right when you look out for the right signs. Such
signs would be:
1.Being strongly attracted to each other physically. 2.Being
strongly attracted to each other’s personalities. 3.Having
common interests. 4.Sharing the same values. 5.Major respect for
one another. 6.Someone who makes you feel truly special and
worthy. 7.Someone who puts in a great effort to show you their
passion for you and the things that is important in your life.
8.Meeting on the same emotional levels.
These are some major and important signs to look out for when
trying to track down your soul mate. It will not be difficult to
realize because you will know when things are right and the way
you want it. When you have found such a person, it is good for
you to remember to take things one-step at a time. Sometimes
people jump in too fast and end up getting hurt or realizing
they jumped to conclusions a little too soon. Take it slow and
observe how things are going. See if the person who seems to be
perfect in every way for you, remains to carry the same
qualities as the relationship proceeds.
When time has proven that the two of you are truly compatible in
ways you have always dreamed of, then the relationship may go to
the next level and the two of you can make a serious commitment
and start focusing on building a future together. Like before,
it is important that you pay attention to how you handle a
commitment together and if you both agree on what kind of future
the two of have in mind. Staying on the same levels is a huge
sign that you are with the right person.
Finding your soul mate will the best accomplishment you will
ever make, but it does not stop there. Finding the right person
is just the beginning. Keeping the right person takes work too,
on both your parts. The two of you will have to continue valuing
each other for the rest of your lives, respecting each other’s
individuality and dreams. Refresh your memory of how the two of
were brought together and why you both decided to make a
commitment to one another. As long as you keep the magic between
you alive, your relationship will continue to grow the love and
care you both never imagined could ever happen to you!
Alina Ruigrok is an independent relationship expert for
http://www.love-sessions.com helping those in need for dating,
relationship, marital, sexual and other personal advice through
e-sessions and telephone.
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Friday, 23 May 2008 05:01 |
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The Internet has become the hot new place for smart, eligible
people to find romance, and those looking for love are swarming
into cyberspace. As a result, many individuals have begun
relationships online with people they have not met and know
little about.
With so many people communicating via the Net and deciding to
date virtual strangers, it is important to be safe and be smart.
Common sense can go a long way to keep you safe. Here are some
guidelines for playing it safe:
Watch out for someone who seems too good to be true. Begin by
first communicating solely by email or online chat. Be vigilant
in noticing odd behavior or inconsistencies. If someone is
evasive, this is a red flag. "Listen" to your correspondent"s
words. The person at the other end may not be who or what he/she
says. Trust your instincts. If anything makes you uncomfortable,
walk away for your own safety and protection.
Find out as much information as you can. Learn to ask many
questions. Find out where he grew up, where she works, and how
he is connected to his community. These are clues to finding out
who this person really is. Be suspicious, if someone is
unwilling to reveal any personal identifying information. Probe
any discrepancies in their stories. If your correspondent is
unwilling to answer your questions, this is another red flag.
Continue with a great deal of caution.
Honesty is the key to success. Talk on the telephone and
continue to learn more about your correspondent. A phone call
can reveal a lot about a person"s communication and social
skills. It is worth the cost of the call to protect your
security. But do not give out your phone number to a stranger.
Trust takes time to develop. Only when you feel completely
comfortable should you furnish your phone number.
Don"t rush into anything. Meeting someone online and then
arranging a date in a relatively short time can be dangerous.
Take time to find out who this person really is. If someone is
pressuring you to get together before you are ready, this is
another warning sign. If anything feels strange as you get to
know this person, then it is time to back away and look for
another match.
If you decide to meet for a date, proceed with caution. Arrange
the meeting on your terms. The following is a guide to ensure
that you have a safe encounter:
Before You Meet
Before you go out with someone new, it is important to get as
much information as you can about the person you will meet.
Always ask for a full name, address, and telephone number before
agreeing to go out with someone you have never met.
Never go out with someone who will only give you a pager or work
phone number. (There is a very good chance of a spouse in the
house.)
When someone gives his or her phone number, find a reason to
call unexpectedly. This may help you to find out if she is
married or he is living with someone.
Find out where the person works and if you can call him or her
at work
First Date Know-How
Be careful when agreeing to meet anyone in person. Set the
conditions for your date and do not let the other person change
them. Remember, you really do not know someone until you spend
time with them in person. Represent yourself accurately.
Exaggerating or deceiving is easy online. Areas to be
particularly cautious about are marital status and physical
appearance. Begin with a request for a picture and send them a
recent one of you. If someone is unwilling to send a recent
photo, this is warning sign. If he or she continuously comes up
with an excuse, it is because that person has something to hide.
Having a scanned photo is available at Kinko"s for less than ten
dollars, so there is no valid excuse for not doing it. After you
have exchanged photos, continue to fill in the gaps, so that the
other person does not create you in their image. Keep it honest.
Always tell someone where you are going with your date and when
you will return. Leave your date"s full name and telephone
numbers with that person and write it down. For a small fee, you
can leave information regarding where you are going and all the
pertinent details with a service called SmartDate at If your
date wants you to keep it secret, this is a very big red flag.
Protect yourself.
Always meet in a public place that you are familiar with on your
first date. Stay near other people in a lighted area. Getting
together for coffee is a pleasant, casual way to get to know
someone.
Never allow yourself to be picked up from your house. Giving
your address out to a stranger is not safe. Arrange your own
transportation so that you can leave if there is any sign of
trouble.
Pay attention to everything that this person has told you about
him or herself. If you find out that your date has lied about
anything, this is another red flag. Do not bring your date back
to your house after the first meeting. You do not know this
person. Use the same kind of common sense and rules that you
would use in any type of dating relationship.
Be smart and be safe. Take control of your future. Know what you
are getting into before you invest your heart, money, or your
life. Information is the key.
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Thursday, 01 May 2008 13:00 |
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Since the escalation of international terrorist activity a few
years ago, many of us have had an opportunity to re-evaluate
relationships and reflect upon our lives. This can be a very
difficult, and sometimes wrenching thing to do, but a necessary
activity. Making this sort of emotional assessment takes us back
to our core values. It helps us to appreciate the people who
have touched our lives in positive ways.
Who you are is a reflection of the people you have been around,
in conjunction with circumstances and environment. These are
usually family and friends - those who care about your physical,
emotional, and spiritual welfare. Having a support system is an
important aspect of developing a strong psyche.
Have you ever wondered why a particular person has come into
your life? Perhaps there"s a life lesson for you to learn -
compassion, patience, trust, dependability, etc., that was not
possible to experience any other way. We frequently meet people
who are destined to be pivotal to us through another contact.
Being open to these opportunities can create an enriching
endeavour.
Having relationships is all about making emotional commitments
to people we care about. Studies have shown that those who are
truly happiest are those with strong connections to the people
they love. Even money becomes secondary in this situation.
People who have been pronounced clinically dead and then revived
have almost universally said that their most significant
experience during the episode was understanding the importance
of loving others.
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